Don't blow your nose

Taken from : Men'sHealth

Thank goodness cold and flu season is almost over.

But if you caught a cold this winter and quarantined yourself in your office—or bed—with a box of tissues, you might have done your sinuses a disservice.

According to a recent story in the New York Times, blowing your nose when you have a cold can cause more harm than good.

Is this really true?

Yes and no, explains J. Owen Hendley, M.D., professor of pediatrics at the University of Virginia. Hendley coauthored a study a few years ago that found nose-blowing generates very high pressure in the nasal cavity—more pressure than coughing and sneezing—because closing off the front of your nose (hopefully with a tissue) causes the mucus to exit through a thin opening. And not all of it goes out through the nostrils.

It's unclear whether blowing mucus into your sinus was harmful, but during sickness it could shoot viruses or bacteria in there and possibly cause further infection, Hendley says.

If you already have a cold, stop the drip by doing the opposite of what your momma told you: Don’t blow. But if you absolutely must, some experts say, do it one nostril at a time and take a decongestant.

Hello God

Currently watching this korean drama series, well, i think it's a bit boring in the start, but..it gets better, and actually it's worth watching...great story, great actors...etc2...lolz. I like watching movie which is inspirational and motivating... this one is....

A few quotes from this movie:

• it's a foolish thing, to do something just to beat somebody
• what's important is your own happiness
• there's no unequal heart, you can love anyone
  

Hm..more quotes after i finished watching this movie.. :D

Finding and Keeping A Life Partner (cont'd)

::Another perspective::

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships.



Observe the relationships around you.

• Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean?
• Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
• Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
• When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
• Which ones don't appreciate you?
• Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations?

An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye;Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

• Do you bring out the best in each other?
• Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
• What do you bring to the relationship?
• Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong is:
1. trust
2. communication
3. intimacy
4. a sense of humor
5. sharing tasks
6. daily exchanges (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc)
7. sharing common goals and interests
8. giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
9. giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment
10. concern and care for your lover in your own ways.

Finding and Keeping A Life Partner

forwarded in an email by a friend... worth reading

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER (by Dov Heller, M.A.)

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner:

Question #1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Question #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
Question #3: Is he/she a mensch?
Question #4: How does he/she treat other people?
Question #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

More thorough explanation:

#1 Marry someone who wants the same thing.

#2 Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person (trust). Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry

#3 A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. A good person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right.

#4 Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self's absorbed? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

#5 If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. You can't change people.

Lead more with your head, less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible.
Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

A Beginning of a new Ending

--31 Jan 2009--

Akhirnya tugas akhir saya sudah dikumpul..ahauhaua
Lega? pasti.... Takut? iya....antara takut waktu sidang atau takut ke depannya...
Siapapun yg membaca blog ini, doakan saya dapat lulus sidang dan lulus dengan baik yah
Kemaren gw memutuskan untuk tidak memikirkan hal-hal berat, malas!!!

--01 Feb 2009--
Yang jelas, sudah saatnya memikirkan masa depan, hm...mau kerja dmn? perencanaan keuangan? dll...i guess, akhir dari kuliah itu bener2 sebuah permulaan yang lebih besar tantangannya.
hm, sepertinya gw uda blh mencoba mulai merencanakan apa yang perlu direncanakan, dan melakukan apa yang perlu dilakukan..

New rules ...hmph..

Suddenly something struck me (again !!!)

Banyak hal-hal "dont's" yg sudah saya lakukan dalam beberapa minggu terakhir ini.
Salahkan skripsi? Tidak, salahkan saya yang kurang bisa membagi waktu dengan baik.
Selama ini, ternyata teh dan kopi itu mengandung kafein (soal kadar dan pengaruh negatifnya kurang tau).

Yang jelas, selama skripsi ini, tidur tidak jelas waktunya, konsumsi kopi meningkat, dan kemungkinan stress meningkat (bohong kalau dibilang gak stress sama sekali, stress mungkin ada, tapi gak besar kadarnya kalau di gw pribadi)

hm....ok, utk ke depannya ada beberapa aturan sendiri yang kubuat sendiri dan kurencanakan akan kutaati :p
1. kurangi konsumsi daging merah, ganti jadi ikan
2. perbanyak konsumsi makanan berserat
3. perbanyak konsumsi air putih dan jus buah
4. tidur mengikuti siklus yg seharusnya
5. lebih disiplin (yg ini penting utk mendukung yg lainnya)
6. memprioritaskan hal yg penting dahulu
7. olahraga rutin (minimal 2 kali seminggu)
8. think positively !!!
9. konsumsi sayuran dari keluarga brokoli2an

mudah2an bukan cm ngomong duank :P

24 hours a day ain't enough??

This inspirational story below is gotten from a forwarded email… Nice!!!

Mengingatkan saya untuk selalu mendahulukan hal penting dulu...hm..it can be a new 2009 resolution...lol

The Mayonaise Jar and 2 cups of coffee

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and hand some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---God, your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else---the small stuff. 'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you

'Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. 'I'm glad you asked.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.